Thursday, September 3, 2009

Welcome.....to Holland

WELCOME TO HOLLAND
byEmily Perl Kingsley.
c1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley. All rights reserved
I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.

Welcome, from the bottom of my heart, to this very dear piece of my heart..Autism Blooms!
The Lord has placed it on my heart to move forward with this vision of mine...or perhaps, HIS. I hope, truely, that you are encouraged as i have been...that Autism is not the end..it is the very beginning of hope, and a deep understanding of somebody that seems so far away...an adventure of sorts...an amazing journey...a blessing...a gift...a LIFE less ordinary...Thankyou for sharing any of your journey as i share ours... i will be back often with updates and fun ideas...

From my heart..

4 comments:

  1. Whoooooooowhoooooooo!!!!....look at you!!!!...Such an awesome new blog you have created!....I am soooooo excited for your newest venture!.....Count on me to spread the word(...er, as soon as I get going on my posts!..lol)...love,Mommy

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  2. Oh my goodness, Joy! I do believe that you have the most wonderful gift- of writing! Every time I turn around I discover another one of your talents, my dear, dear friend. So glad to see you are back and I LOVE your new blog! Lori

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  3. Hey Joy its Kate! I am so glad that you wrote this blog! I love the Welcome to Holland piece! That is exactly how I felt when I found out that Ben had Autism EXACTLY! I miss you and I hope that we can get together sometime soon! Love Kate

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  4. Hi, Joy I just love your cheerful way you are accepting what God has given you, and for listening to him.I will visit here often. My sweet Danny is doing great! An answer to pray for me, he has the same teacher this year she is our angel! Love the story and it made a new way of looking at it. Take care, XO Fran. oh PS I have a blog now!! I did it!

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